I’m so excited that Sheri Winston is coming back to teach Women’s Anatomy of Arousal. This should be a 101 required class for all women and men who love to arouse women She’s coming to kick off our new. Love Feeling Sexy Event!
A Peek at Women’s Anatomy of Arousal
by Sheri Winston, CNM, RN, BSN, LMT
What’s Really Down There May Surprise You!
Being an educated person, you probably think you have a pretty good understanding of both models of the standard sexual equipment, whichever version you happen to own or like to visit. It may surprise you to know that our accepted cultural ideas and images of genitals are missing a lot of really good stuff.
What’s Missing From This Picture?
Believe it or not, the majority of contemporary books and illustrations of female genital anatomy leave out most of the equipment responsible for arousal and orgasm. When these specialized sexual structures are omitted from the images and text, they’re also absent from our mental model. This limits your ability to access your full sexual potential—it’s kind of like a psychological chastity belt. There is much more to women’s pleasure than the clitoris, and there’s more to the clitoris than meets the eye. This ultra-sensitive sweet button is only the tip of the female volcano, just one component of a whole network of erogenous structures. Women have an interlocking set of sexual pleasure parts, most of which are unknown or misunderstood. In fact, women have just as much erotic equipment in their bodies as men do. That’s right. The female apparatus is equivalent in size to that of the male—it’s just not as obvious. Pound for pound, inch for inch, women have the same amount of the good stuff as guys.
Playing the Whole Instrument
Since we don’t know about all of these yummy parts, we’re operating with a limited mental model. It’s as if we’ve been trying to play the piano and make beautiful music but are only aware of a quarter of the keys. With most of the keyboard missing, we can still make lovely music, but the range is restricted. When we discover the complete network of structures and understand how the connected system works together, it’s as if we now know where all the keys are (plus the foot pedals!). Then we can learn how to fully play our instrument and make a much wider, more expansive range of music. Some songs that seemed well outside our ability now become possible. We may not be able to play a Mozart sonata or have fifteen-minute orgasms right away, but we can see that it’s possible to get there. It’s no wonder so many women face challenges in accessing their full arousal and becoming orgasmically proficient. They haven’t been using their whole instrument! When we don’t know what’s there, we don’t know how to thoroughly play with it and neither do our partners, whether they’re male or female. And of course we can’t teach them, if we don’t know ourselves. When your mental model is congruent with your experience, the impact can be enormous. Often, it’s only in retrospect that you see what you were missing before. The power of having a mind map that matches your reality and accurately reflects your body and its abilities can’t be overstated—your sex life becomes full of new understandings of who you are and how you operate, a luscious tapestry of “Aha!” and “Oh my god!” moments. For women to reach their full sexual potential, they need to discover this network of erogenous circuits. When that whole system is fully utilized, it becomes considerably easier for women to expand their arousal, access amazing orgasmic states and discover their deep and wondrous wildness. When you know all your parts and give them the attention they so richly deserve, your music can become a powerful symphony of ecstasy.